You may have heard the statement, “That’s why we were given two ears and a single mouth- to listen more and talk less.” What does the phrase, “I never stop listening” mean to you?
Is it about your favorite CD or MP3? Is it about being true to yourself and perhaps taking your own advice? In the words of Phillip Stanhope, Earl of Chesterfield, “Many a man would rather you heard his story than granted his request.”
When you listen to others, do you listen with intention? Do you focus on what the other person is saying, rather than planning your own brilliant response? Conversation is a two-way process. Is it time for you to stop treating conversation like a competitive sport, and really begin to listen- without interrupting, to others? I never stop listening! I like to engage in conversation, but I want the other party to have a chance to express himself, to share his thoughts, and in some cases, to dazzle me. Think about these 3 points as you struggle to listen more and speak less:
- Knowledge is power and the listener is at the receiving end
- The talker will feel understood and valued
- When it is your turn to speak, others will listen
Active listening is a critical tool in the workplace; it will help you to advance in your career. Listening attentively allows others to open up, be understood, and feel respected. Active listening is a critical tool in everyday life. Listening attentively prevents misunderstandings, defuses conflict, identifies points of agreement, and considers different points of view. Active listening is a great management tool- at home, at work, and throughout life. I never stop listening, do you?